Having fostered more than birman cat for sale and cats over the past decade, my husband and I have encountered this many times – both in our own cat family and in the homes of the people who have adopted our foster pets. I have come up with the following advice for cat owners considering expanding their furry family.
The first question I recommend that prospective multi-cat owner ask themselves is: “should I even get a second/another cat?” The most important thing to realize in this context is that cats are not naturally pack animals. Unlike dogs, whose forebears live in devoted and highly structured family units, cats are solitary creatures. Exceptional cases do arise, but in general the only affectionate multi-animal scenario in the feline world in the mother-kitten relationship.
Because cats are usually born in litters of at least 2 or 3 (and often more), there is generally a second level relationship among littermates. However, the attachment between mummy and kitten is the strongest, and it is invariably affectionate. In fact, there are those who suggest that your cat’s affectionate attachment to you is transference of this relationship – essentially they consider you their ‘mummy’ and the younger they are when you adopt them, likely the stronger this relationship will be.
I personally believe that the attachment cats develop for humans is probably more to do with individual personalities (both cat and human), but whatever the reasons and mechanisms, it’s definitely true that it is a lot easier to get a cat to love you than it is to get them to love another cat. So, ask yourself candidly if you really need a second (or third, or fourth) cat. And, if you have gotten away with two, don’t be fooled into thinking that you will necessarily be problem free with more. Each cat has his or her own unique personality and hang-ups – just like people. Our own personal experience was that cat number two dovetailed perfectly into our family, right up until we introduced cat number three.
Presuming that I have not talked you out of the idea by now, that you are determined to have a multi-cat household, here are my suggestions for increasing your chances of smooth success. First, consider going multi-cat right from the start. Ideally, adopt a mother and her kitten. This can be especially successful if the mother is under one year old which, sadly, has been the case far too often for the mother cats we’ve helped rescue. You can also consider adopting litter-mates and chances are almost as good that things will work out well, but this is by no means guaranteed.